all the good ones are gay, married or under 30
There's this guy, we'll call him Married Drummer Boy (MDB), who plays at my bar a lot. I've seen him probably a couple times a week over the last couple months. He's cute. We started talking more and more about a month ago and I mentioned to DD that I thought he was cute. She replied, "Sooooo cute, too bad he's married." Boo. So I wrote him off. As you do. Alas, I still see him all the time, talk to him often and man, why are all the good ones married? Recently he's started touching me. Just a friendly shoulder squeeze when he comes in, if I am too busy to say "hi." I've complained before about unwelcome touching from guys, but this is welcome, but also friendly, casual and not at all icky. When I talk to him he goes out of his way to ask me about my art projects, to bring up things from past conversations, to ask how my week was. He was clearly very shy at first and is becoming more and more comfortable with me and friendly and funny and open. I found myself laying in bed last wondering if DD was wrong, maybe he's not married at all, maybe she confused him with the bass player or something. Hope springs eternal. The things is, of the guys in his band that are married, their wives all come down and hang out occasionally, see the show, whatever. In eight months, I've never seen his wife. She exists, I'm sure she does, but man, it would be so much easier if I could talk to her and satisfy myself that he was happily married. In the mean time, I'll keep hoping.
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